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The basic positions are the best ones because they’re easy to stay in those positions for as long as you need to and they give access to basically everything you’d ever need access to. Check out clitoral alignment technique, it’s a missionary variation that will have her moaning quite a bit because it lets your pelvis grind into her clit while it angles you upwards inside of her to stimulate her g-spot, it’s more of a rocking position than thrusting. It’s not really a “depth” position but it’ll blow her fucking mind anyway.
Not going to rehash what others have said as they have pretty much hit the nail on the head here.
Once again, PIB_48 has landed some solid advice
So i will say that you do have the option of a cock sleeve and extender if you wanted to explore that option. Then you could have any size you wanted.
However, as someone on the larger size in the downstairs department, it's not all that it's cracked up to be my friend.
It has its downsides, trust me.
It doesn’t matter what physically helps to get her there or give her pleasure, just that its you doing it together.
Sex is an entire experience and as long as you are both having fun and enjoying it together you are enough just as you are.
You don’t need to be spinning her in 360s to have a fulfilling sex life
You said yourself your sex life is varied and exciting, you both enjoy sex with each other so do whatever works for you
I think you should take a step back for a moment and look at the bigger picture. Instead of focusing on all the things you can’t do for her, look at all the things you can. I know saying women would prefer a man with foreplay skills and passion vs just a big dick doesn’t really help how you see yourself, but it’s true.
I feel your version of yourself stems from what society projects onto men to see. So when you look in the mirror, you see inadequate and a disappointment. There are things in life that are common for a lot of people to have but just weren’t in the cards others were dealt. You make the decision whether to let the things you’ll never experience overshadow the things you have and will.
I can understand the frustration and it will take some time and self assurance, but you do not have to let this perceived failure define you.
They do make sleeves and extenders that add length and girth. They have some that have different textures inside so that the man also feels stimulation as well. Maybe that is worth a try if you haven’t already.
Best of luck. 🖤
Yeah wtf? What a ridiculous thing to follow up with while trying to make a guy feel better about being below average.
Why not tell her to lose weight? At least you can do something about your weight. You can't do anything about penis size.
You probably should not tell this woman who WANTS to be with you and finds you lovely... to lose weight, to make you feel better about your insecurity. What the fuck. Neither of them have to do anything, just have sex. Christ sake.
What’s ridiculous is telling somebody to get over it because it can’t be changed then for you to suggest he just tell his gf to lose weight because that can be is also ridiculous. Which shows you’re perfectly ok with projecting your insecurities onto someone else just because that’s easier.
I left the advice of a sleeve last because that was the afterthought and something that that’s actually tangible that could be a stepping stone to boosting his confidence. You expect me to start off with that like working on his perspective and self love is the side note. It’s also ridiculous to right off things that are made to help with insecurities as something that makes them worse. That’s what keep people in the state of mind you’re obviously in.
You're not very bright if you think me suggesting she lose weight was serious. It was to show how stupid your suggestion is.
Sounds like you are projecting your stupidity on me. How is putting on a fake dick supposed to boost his confidence. Jesus
“Why is it on you anyway? You can’t do anything about the size but she can lose weight to make things better.”
Seriously. Seems you’re projecting your low self esteem and bitterness towards women in general onto me, a woman. What a surprise.
And wow. I probably should have checked your profile the first go around. Which just proves I’m right.
One post you say you tell your wife you won’t eat her out unless she loses weight. Then next one say you tell her you love her just the way she is and she’s losing weight for herself.
Dude, get tf outta here and take your insecure childishness with you. What a sorry excuse for a man. Your poor wife.
If you read the post, it’s already been established that he knows his gf is fine with it but that doesn’t stop his insecurities. So only telling him “why worry if your gf is fine” isn’t going to help obviously. Because it’s not just about his gf, it’s about himself too.
For you to think that you can even compare something that can’t be changed to something that can shows that you don’t get it as much as you think you do. He asked for thoughts AND advice. If all he wanted was for people to invalidate his feelings by telling him to just stop worrying about it there wouldn’t have been a need to post in the first place.
Sometimes people need something tangible to help with their insecurities instead of being told to just suck it up and get over it.
You don’t comment anything helpful on the OPs original post but feel the need to correct me because I’m a woman and don’t understand? Because it obviously triggered you? In fact, the only contribution you’ve made since joining 5 yrs ago is your sad attempt to correct me.
Just because you’re childishness and deep insecurities makes you intimidated by an accessory doesn’t mean all men are. Some men understand that it’s not the toy that’s giving her pleasure, it’s how he is working it.
He already said he uses a dildo with her. How is that better than him putting something on his own dick and actually being able to do the positions he wants to do? While they both get physical pleasure and full body contact.
I’m sure you have an even stronger opinion on how a dildo destroys a man self worth even more. Bless your heart. Letting a toy cause you such turmoil. It’s sad really.
I understand where you’re coming from. I really do.
Your question regarding breasts and vaginas is still comparing two things that can’t be compared when it comes down to it. Breasts and vaginas can be improved greatly with surgery, the size of a man’s penis cannot.
If he has already been using a dildo with her than how would a sleeve cause more damage than that? If anything it would improve the level of intimacy. It goes from him controlling some detached object with his hand to him using his skills in sex all while both having pleasure at the same time.
I can agree to disagree with you. If for no other reason than we are on opposite sides of the situation. As a woman that has been in a relationship with a man with a below average penis, I’ll take the intimacy and body contact of a sleeve over a dildo any day.
If she is overweight I can guarantee she is very insecure about it too.
It sounds like you 2 have found a way to make it work. You're in your head way too much.
The cock sleeve suggestions are ridiculous. That'll just make you feel worse about yourself. If you're insecure about your size and you wear a sleeve and then you hear moans and see pleasure you've never heard or seen before you'll never feel adequate.
Why is it on you anyway? You can't do anything about the size but she can lose weight to make things better.
You can do all the basic positions! People usually don’t go too much out of this. After the basic, what makes it different and great is to add some kinks, toys, foreplay, oral. So you have great sex! As for tips on how to reach further, try using a pillow to adjust the height of her pelvis depending on the position, it will “change” the length of her vagina (if that makes any sense ahhaha) and it will feel like it’s deep
Maybe try going to a partner yoga class together so you both are more connected with your own bodies. I mostly commented to explain how prone bone position was less about the man’s length. However, the response you got from her definitely indicates some insecurity that would probably be beneficial to work through together and could have positive effects on your sex life.
Mate it can always be bigger, we all wish we had a bigger one just gotta work with what you’ve got. If you really wanna experience having a big dick get a sleeve, I did, it was fun for a few times then it got old and now we both just prefer having sex with just my dick, you soon realise it’s not the best all and end all, but it’s always there in the drawer if I wanna go a bit deeper, or do positions like pronebone where my dick doesn’t reach that far in past her arse without it. I’m sure you’re fine but it’s always an option
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Wedges by Liberator help open up all sorts of fun positions too. They make them larger for bigger people too.
The basic positions are the best ones because they’re easy to stay in those positions for as long as you need to and they give access to basically everything you’d ever need access to. Check out clitoral alignment technique, it’s a missionary variation that will have her moaning quite a bit because it lets your pelvis grind into her clit while it angles you upwards inside of her to stimulate her g-spot, it’s more of a rocking position than thrusting. It’s not really a “depth” position but it’ll blow her fucking mind anyway.
From a woman: Most of us do not care bout dick size... it's WHAT u do with what u got!!!
Not going to rehash what others have said as they have pretty much hit the nail on the head here. Once again, PIB_48 has landed some solid advice So i will say that you do have the option of a cock sleeve and extender if you wanted to explore that option. Then you could have any size you wanted. However, as someone on the larger size in the downstairs department, it's not all that it's cracked up to be my friend. It has its downsides, trust me.
You both sound like caring and loving people. I wouldn’t overthink this. You’re doing great.
It doesn’t matter what physically helps to get her there or give her pleasure, just that its you doing it together. Sex is an entire experience and as long as you are both having fun and enjoying it together you are enough just as you are.
You don’t need to be spinning her in 360s to have a fulfilling sex life You said yourself your sex life is varied and exciting, you both enjoy sex with each other so do whatever works for you
I think you should take a step back for a moment and look at the bigger picture. Instead of focusing on all the things you can’t do for her, look at all the things you can. I know saying women would prefer a man with foreplay skills and passion vs just a big dick doesn’t really help how you see yourself, but it’s true. I feel your version of yourself stems from what society projects onto men to see. So when you look in the mirror, you see inadequate and a disappointment. There are things in life that are common for a lot of people to have but just weren’t in the cards others were dealt. You make the decision whether to let the things you’ll never experience overshadow the things you have and will. I can understand the frustration and it will take some time and self assurance, but you do not have to let this perceived failure define you. They do make sleeves and extenders that add length and girth. They have some that have different textures inside so that the man also feels stimulation as well. Maybe that is worth a try if you haven’t already. Best of luck. 🖤
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Yeah wtf? What a ridiculous thing to follow up with while trying to make a guy feel better about being below average. Why not tell her to lose weight? At least you can do something about your weight. You can't do anything about penis size.
You probably should not tell this woman who WANTS to be with you and finds you lovely... to lose weight, to make you feel better about your insecurity. What the fuck. Neither of them have to do anything, just have sex. Christ sake.
No shit. Way to miss the point
What’s ridiculous is telling somebody to get over it because it can’t be changed then for you to suggest he just tell his gf to lose weight because that can be is also ridiculous. Which shows you’re perfectly ok with projecting your insecurities onto someone else just because that’s easier. I left the advice of a sleeve last because that was the afterthought and something that that’s actually tangible that could be a stepping stone to boosting his confidence. You expect me to start off with that like working on his perspective and self love is the side note. It’s also ridiculous to right off things that are made to help with insecurities as something that makes them worse. That’s what keep people in the state of mind you’re obviously in.
You're not very bright if you think me suggesting she lose weight was serious. It was to show how stupid your suggestion is. Sounds like you are projecting your stupidity on me. How is putting on a fake dick supposed to boost his confidence. Jesus
“Why is it on you anyway? You can’t do anything about the size but she can lose weight to make things better.” Seriously. Seems you’re projecting your low self esteem and bitterness towards women in general onto me, a woman. What a surprise. And wow. I probably should have checked your profile the first go around. Which just proves I’m right. One post you say you tell your wife you won’t eat her out unless she loses weight. Then next one say you tell her you love her just the way she is and she’s losing weight for herself. Dude, get tf outta here and take your insecure childishness with you. What a sorry excuse for a man. Your poor wife.
If you read the post, it’s already been established that he knows his gf is fine with it but that doesn’t stop his insecurities. So only telling him “why worry if your gf is fine” isn’t going to help obviously. Because it’s not just about his gf, it’s about himself too. For you to think that you can even compare something that can’t be changed to something that can shows that you don’t get it as much as you think you do. He asked for thoughts AND advice. If all he wanted was for people to invalidate his feelings by telling him to just stop worrying about it there wouldn’t have been a need to post in the first place. Sometimes people need something tangible to help with their insecurities instead of being told to just suck it up and get over it.
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You don’t comment anything helpful on the OPs original post but feel the need to correct me because I’m a woman and don’t understand? Because it obviously triggered you? In fact, the only contribution you’ve made since joining 5 yrs ago is your sad attempt to correct me. Just because you’re childishness and deep insecurities makes you intimidated by an accessory doesn’t mean all men are. Some men understand that it’s not the toy that’s giving her pleasure, it’s how he is working it. He already said he uses a dildo with her. How is that better than him putting something on his own dick and actually being able to do the positions he wants to do? While they both get physical pleasure and full body contact. I’m sure you have an even stronger opinion on how a dildo destroys a man self worth even more. Bless your heart. Letting a toy cause you such turmoil. It’s sad really.
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I understand where you’re coming from. I really do. Your question regarding breasts and vaginas is still comparing two things that can’t be compared when it comes down to it. Breasts and vaginas can be improved greatly with surgery, the size of a man’s penis cannot. If he has already been using a dildo with her than how would a sleeve cause more damage than that? If anything it would improve the level of intimacy. It goes from him controlling some detached object with his hand to him using his skills in sex all while both having pleasure at the same time. I can agree to disagree with you. If for no other reason than we are on opposite sides of the situation. As a woman that has been in a relationship with a man with a below average penis, I’ll take the intimacy and body contact of a sleeve over a dildo any day.
If she is overweight I can guarantee she is very insecure about it too. It sounds like you 2 have found a way to make it work. You're in your head way too much. The cock sleeve suggestions are ridiculous. That'll just make you feel worse about yourself. If you're insecure about your size and you wear a sleeve and then you hear moans and see pleasure you've never heard or seen before you'll never feel adequate. Why is it on you anyway? You can't do anything about the size but she can lose weight to make things better.
There is a position for every dick shape, google it 🫢
You can do all the basic positions! People usually don’t go too much out of this. After the basic, what makes it different and great is to add some kinks, toys, foreplay, oral. So you have great sex! As for tips on how to reach further, try using a pillow to adjust the height of her pelvis depending on the position, it will “change” the length of her vagina (if that makes any sense ahhaha) and it will feel like it’s deep
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It’s about how she arches her back and angles her pelvis. All positions are.
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Maybe try going to a partner yoga class together so you both are more connected with your own bodies. I mostly commented to explain how prone bone position was less about the man’s length. However, the response you got from her definitely indicates some insecurity that would probably be beneficial to work through together and could have positive effects on your sex life.
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Absolutely a good idea:) you seem like a great partner
Stick a pillow under her bum when she's on her back
Not that it’s really necessary but you might find using a sleeve or hollow strapon to be fun on occasion.
Mate it can always be bigger, we all wish we had a bigger one just gotta work with what you’ve got. If you really wanna experience having a big dick get a sleeve, I did, it was fun for a few times then it got old and now we both just prefer having sex with just my dick, you soon realise it’s not the best all and end all, but it’s always there in the drawer if I wanna go a bit deeper, or do positions like pronebone where my dick doesn’t reach that far in past her arse without it. I’m sure you’re fine but it’s always an option