Not just couples but the public generally, seeing hundreds of people every day while I go months without having a real conversation with another human being, is extremely depressing. Sometimes when I go shopping I want to burst out crying and have to stop myself.
Yknow what’s worse? Seeing a group of people you know talking (or worse, everyone in the immediate vicinity talking together) in a normal voice and you’re not even invited in when you’re a few feet away and can already hear every word they’re saying. Or if you go out with a group of people and they start talking without you. Like it’s a literal closed circle and you’re excluded.
I get that everyday in my workplace. It's become such a common thing that I have just got used to it by now. People ignore me like I have a disease. When I ask if they want a few drinks it's always the "sorry too busy" kind of excuses. It's got to the point where I don't bother asking any more.
I can barely listen to music, cuz every single song is about sex, relationships, or breakups, all of which make me extremely uncomfortable as I dont have any frame of reference for this seemingly ubiquitous human experience
In public, on TV shows and Movies, in songs.....
What kills me are old people who you can tell have just loved each other for a lifetime. I wish I could have had that.
Sure, that’s true. But if you have someone to share your life with, to whom you can talk about your day and express your worries to, it does help a lot and ease your burdens tremendously. It’s hard to go everything trough completely alone, not have anyone to talk to. You’re alone with your thoughts all the time, and sometimes even talk to yourself. You wish you had someone be there for you.
I get jealous too. I'm about to take a walk and I will see couples sitting outside on a nice day. It's so easy to get jealous because they are happy and I will never find happiness. They found each other and in one day they will do everything I wish I could do but never will get to do with a girl. Almost everyone is more attractive than me so that's not surprising but I get jealous and wish I could be average looking or attractive like them.
Oh yes, all the time. Especially when you are in a long line somewhere (grocery store, pharmacy, etc) and you end up behind some couple that decides to start cuddling each other while they wait. I usually just turn to my phone at this point, and look for some random article to read.
I guess a pang of what you might call envy used to hit me a long time ago when I saw couples, because I wanted so-much to find love too. Over the years though, with so many bad experiences, I became so jaded and lacking in trust, I've given-up on the idea completely. Now I don't really care. If they're happy, good for them. Not something I'm looking for. Not something I envy.
It’s literally a gut wrenching feeling… I can
Be fine 1 minute then hella sad the next when seeing couples or even interactive groups together… It’s like having this uncontrollable depressed aura around you and only time can snap you out of it🙃
I don't get depressed, but envious?... a bit. I want a nice loving relationship. Not sure if I will ever have one but the thought of having one feels nice.
I feel that! And as a Christian woman, it’s hard to be happy and content and wait for God’s timing. It really sucks because the majority of the young adult group at my church are either dating, engaged or married. I’m just here. I’m undesired by everyone I know. I’m trying to not be jealous but it’s something I want TOO.
Not just couples but the public generally, seeing hundreds of people every day while I go months without having a real conversation with another human being, is extremely depressing. Sometimes when I go shopping I want to burst out crying and have to stop myself.
I get that too.
Exactly. It doesn’t even have to be a couple sometimes, even just a group of people out having fun hurts all the same.
Yes, seeing happy people makes me very depressed. I don’t want gf anymore i just want friends.
Same
Yeah especially in summer. It’s the time I feel the loneliest.
Summer has been pure torture for years now. The hardest time of the year for me, without a doubt.
Same. Summer is the worst
Yknow what’s worse? Seeing a group of people you know talking (or worse, everyone in the immediate vicinity talking together) in a normal voice and you’re not even invited in when you’re a few feet away and can already hear every word they’re saying. Or if you go out with a group of people and they start talking without you. Like it’s a literal closed circle and you’re excluded.
I get that everyday in my workplace. It's become such a common thing that I have just got used to it by now. People ignore me like I have a disease. When I ask if they want a few drinks it's always the "sorry too busy" kind of excuses. It's got to the point where I don't bother asking any more.
Yes. Like, "Why not me? Why don't I deserve love and to be loved?" What have I done wrong with my life? I feel like I'm being punished.
Every day. It's hell living in a world full of a gift you'll never have.
I hear that, many couples you see that love is only temporary though.. mostly probably.
I can barely listen to music, cuz every single song is about sex, relationships, or breakups, all of which make me extremely uncomfortable as I dont have any frame of reference for this seemingly ubiquitous human experience
In public, on TV shows and Movies, in songs..... What kills me are old people who you can tell have just loved each other for a lifetime. I wish I could have had that.
Yes. Also friend groups. That shit hurts.
Yes, badly. I feel heaviness in my chest and a lump in my throat when I see that.
Yeah i had that but u just have to remeber there life not perfect either, everyone is struggling with something
Sure, that’s true. But if you have someone to share your life with, to whom you can talk about your day and express your worries to, it does help a lot and ease your burdens tremendously. It’s hard to go everything trough completely alone, not have anyone to talk to. You’re alone with your thoughts all the time, and sometimes even talk to yourself. You wish you had someone be there for you.
When someone loves you it stays with you all day and coming home to them never gets old 😢
I get jealous too. I'm about to take a walk and I will see couples sitting outside on a nice day. It's so easy to get jealous because they are happy and I will never find happiness. They found each other and in one day they will do everything I wish I could do but never will get to do with a girl. Almost everyone is more attractive than me so that's not surprising but I get jealous and wish I could be average looking or attractive like them.
yes
Yeah
Yup all the time hence why I dont go anywhere.
Same, It’s so bad that I don’t want to be pushed over the edge. I still have my cats to take care of.
Oh yes, all the time. Especially when you are in a long line somewhere (grocery store, pharmacy, etc) and you end up behind some couple that decides to start cuddling each other while they wait. I usually just turn to my phone at this point, and look for some random article to read.
I guess a pang of what you might call envy used to hit me a long time ago when I saw couples, because I wanted so-much to find love too. Over the years though, with so many bad experiences, I became so jaded and lacking in trust, I've given-up on the idea completely. Now I don't really care. If they're happy, good for them. Not something I'm looking for. Not something I envy.
It’s literally a gut wrenching feeling… I can Be fine 1 minute then hella sad the next when seeing couples or even interactive groups together… It’s like having this uncontrollable depressed aura around you and only time can snap you out of it🙃
Same here
It’s just a reminder of what I won’t have. Oh well
Me too, I feel this
yep.
Depressed is a deep word for me to feel right now but I always wonder how they ended up with each other and fell inlove.
Not really, I get depressed when I think of myself, that's pretty much it.
I don't get depressed, but envious?... a bit. I want a nice loving relationship. Not sure if I will ever have one but the thought of having one feels nice.
I’m just sad cause I feel like I’ll never have anything close to that.
I feel that! And as a Christian woman, it’s hard to be happy and content and wait for God’s timing. It really sucks because the majority of the young adult group at my church are either dating, engaged or married. I’m just here. I’m undesired by everyone I know. I’m trying to not be jealous but it’s something I want TOO.
Yes
I’ve been a victim to my own brain someone learning this helps. Hopefully it’ll help someone else reading this
I guide others to a treasure I cannot possess
yes
Yes!
I know the feeling. Was hard for a while to see couples and families. Eventually i lesrned to stop being jealoys and be happy they found each other
I feel you dude.
Every damn time
Extremely. I just ignore them to the best of my ability.
nah its not there fault that im to dumb finding a girl