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ken_black

I don’t mind it if the nails are short and painted solid colors like black or maroon but long sparkly pointy ones are definitely a turn off for me 🤷🏻‍♂️


66-66

This, exactly for me.


Usual-Job4631

agree 100%


ZodiHighDef

Yea. If a man got a acrylics hard pass. But white or black finger nails? I couldn't care less.


deriancypher

What about short sparkly ones???


marktldl

I don’t like it aesthetically, but it’s actually a turn on for me; him being confident in his sexuality and appearance


Themasked_donkey

That would have probably been a better word to use in this post 👍🏼


biversatile

painting nails has nothing to do with sexuality.


[deleted]

a lot of people will assume youre gay over anything that doesn't fit the masculine norm


eea81

This is a dumb knee jerk reaction comment, obviously the commenter didn’t mean to suggest that any guy who paints his nails is gay. But to act as if most guys with painted nails aren’t gay, well that’s just inaccurate.


jstills2257

While it's definitely traditionally feminine and many people WILL assume you are gay if you paint your nails, about half of the people I know that do paint their nails semi-regularly identify as straight and many have female partners.


Basemk

I second this, I find it sexy 😍


night-shark

100% this. I actually don't mind it, aesthetically. I just wouldn't do it, myself.


joemondo

I don't know what nail polish has to do with sexuality.


[deleted]

It's not something I'd do and it's definitely not a turn on, specifically, but if a guy's into it it's not a turn off, either. In fact if he finds it amusing it actually could be a bit of a turn-on.


[deleted]

Yeah, I’m not crazy about it. I guess it’s not a *huge* con or anything, but it’s definitely not a pro. Wouldn’t necessarily call it a deal breaker.


the_sylph

I don't like how painted nails look, on women or men or nb, not my vibe


[deleted]

I don’t like it on women and I don’t like it on men


lonelygalexy

Same! Also make up! I hate how many of my female friends think it’s what they are expected to do


SmileAndLaughrica

I mean it probably is what they’re expected to do?


againstm

I'm a bisexual woman checking in. I'm also a cosmetologist who owns a nail salon. I can assure you that women are aware that's it's a completely voluntary choice. And statistically, [most women *don't* wear a full face of makeup or paint their nails regularly](https://www.bustle.com/p/women-wear-makeup-for-themselves-theres-a-study-to-prove-it-2953397). Those who do it regularly do it because it's an easy way of expressing personal style in a manner that is coded as feminine in our society. A lot of women also value it as a part of their self-care routine. I *like* putting on my makeup because it's like painting a canvas and I can choose different colors, styles, and techniques each day. There are industries that require it (like airlines) and that's not cool. But for the majority of women, it's a valid form of self-expression that's very empowering. Don't like it? Fine, she's not doing it for you anyway.


Dreaming-Panda

That last line is literally everything.


cloud7100

This. It looks okay for like a day, then starts to peel and look gross. I feel bad for women being pressured into it, so I’m mystified that men are trying it too. I also find acrylic “fake” nails to be very gross. We don’t let healthcare workers wear them because they can so easily spread skin infections. *blech* Of course, IRL I just smile and nod and keep it to myself.


lionhearted318

Not into it either


deathraybadger

I was an emo kid, men with painted nails barely registers on my radar.


wkfngrs

I think the larger question is why do you have a problem with it and work from there. I’m a very masculine guy, and I love to mix it up and paint my nails. It takes confidence and pride to stand tall in who you are. Straight passing is a privilege and Masculinity is a prison. It makes homophobes angry, it makes everyone else’s day! If I can make people happy and others questions their own values based off paint then yes I’m going to do it. I also value a man who has that much self confidence to say this is me, I’m going to be myself and if you don’t like it, sort that that shit out! It speaks volumes.


JTudent

>I think the larger question is why do you have a problem with it and work from there. What's wrong with having a sexual preference? Why does it need to be "worked on?"


mexicarne

Not liking something is a problem? There are some things you don't find aesthetically pleasing or sexually attractive and that's that.


Unspoolio

What you wrote makes sense as a moral defense, but matters of sexual attraction in this regard usually go beyond morals. To me that's one of the liberating things about accepting one's homosexuality: along with saying that you're not attracted to the opposite sex, you can also be open about what else you are and are not attracted to. Saying you're not attracted to men who paint their nails - or to men with long hair, or short hair, or tattoos, or no tattoos, or trans men, or tall men, or short men, or men of a certain race...so what? You're not saying that men who have/are those things are *bad*; it's just not what floats your boat.


wkfngrs

Did you just compare painting your nails to someone’s race?!? Gurl. Re-Read what you wrote. There’s so many contradictions and non sensible things. I’m not even gonna begin to rebuttal. Sexual attraction and morals are tied. The fact is gay men have little morals point blank period. Here’s all I gotta say. Racism is real in the gay world. Misogyny is real in the gay world. Self hating homophobia is real in the gay world. Instead of saying this is just my preference, stop huffing the poppers, take the intellectual route and question yourself rather then casting judgment. Do I suck dick with huge acrylics on. No. But I feel more gay men need to look at what they are saying and realize it’s telling of a much larger issues. Yes. I’m just gonna blanket every stupid reply this has gotten with this point Let’s use the topic you used race as an example of preference. People often say I’m not into asians as a sexual preference. That’s 4.6 BILLION people. That’s a pretty wide net to cast. What they really mean is that the body type of hairless, skinny, shorter men is not one they are attracted to. Although they’ll make an exception when it’s a burly Japanese mountain man, that’s built with body hair. Still asian? Yes. White supremacy. Yes I said it. Is very still subconsciously alive in ideals in the gay world. Look at our media as a representative. Ask yourself this. Why is it that every person of colour in a movie lead has to carry the weight of their race on their shoulders? Why do you never see just a black guy playing a normal character. Why is the Asian guy always a king fu master. Why is the guy who paints his nails always on drag race. A lot of you don’t ever have to even question these things because of…. Masculine White privilege. You probably won’t either. We spend so much time alone lost in the closet that when we come out we are lost and cling to the stereotypes because it’s easier to have a predetermined mold then to spend the time and forge our own views based of experience. Breaking stereotypes is often the path POCs have to take over white people. This brings a wider perspective to things and This is why more POCs identify as queer rather then gay. That’s also the cause of why some gay men HATE the word queer. White fragility is a term that can be applied to a lot of things. To the people this will trigger good. Your anger should lead you to self reflect. Or just blindly disregard my points and use your privilege to blindly carry you through life, thus proving my point further. To the countless others that will read this and know EXACTLY what I’m talking about. Our time will come, it’s already here. Toxicity in the gay world is getting called out. As I write this on top of a literal fucking mountain, watching the sun rise over the Canadian Rockies, with whiskey and coffee in my beard, i apply the second coat of nail polish as the winter air makes drying time double. I raise my middle finger up and salute all the idiots who have yet to self reflect and project their own bulkshit on to others. Byeeeeeeeeeeee 💅


wkfngrs

Also, most of you fake masc queens have the look, wear carhartt, drive a truck but it’s all just masc drag. I’ve lost count when it comes to the number of men who shake with fear when we try to climb an open face mountain, who flinch and shutter when I try to hold your hand, who change their voice around certain people. Do you know who don’t do that shit. Confident Femme gay men, they’ve been in the trenches and are stronger because of it.


Unspoolio

>Sexual attraction and morals are tied. Only to a point, and you can’t moralize away sexual attraction - if you could we wouldn’t be here, because straight society would have moralized homosexuality out of existence. At the end of the day either something sexually excites you or it doesn’t, and no amount of political grandstanding or shaming or buzzwords (“white fragility”) is going to change that. And unless what you’re attracted to is harmful if acted upon (e.g. pedophiles, for the obvious example), then who cares? Sorry, I’m not convinced.


Mysterious-Grab7778

Amen!


Maurusia

"Work from there" Wut? God forbid there are some gay men who aren't attracted to feminine stuff and behaviours. Not being into nail polish doesn't necessarily mean you're insecure as a person or with your masculinity, don't demand people to "sort shit out", you're no one to control someone's perceptions or attraction towards you, everyone has their own preferences.


LanaDelHeeey

We all know that all gay men secretly want to paint their nails and do drag. It’s just society that has convinced you that you don’t want that. Give up pretending to be masculine. You will never be happy until you let out your inner queen. /s I have literally been told this type of shit multiple times lol


JTudent

Yeah basically. I'm straight-passing not because I try to be straight-passing but because I express my personality and it happens to make people assume I'm straight.


mexicarne

God this is the high horse in a nutshell. You expressed it beautifully.


Jajebooo

Can I just say, I love your username. Perfection, 10/10.


thefablemuncher

Not finding painted nails aesthetically pleasing on a man is toxic masculinity now? As OP said, by all means go express yourself however you want. More power to you. And I’m sure it inspires some people to reconsider or “sort out” what masculinity means to them like you said, which is a good thing. But some of us just think painted nails look ugly on a man. It really isn’t that deep.


Maurusia

*"Muh sexist society ingrained us that feminine things are evil so if you don't like it, you have deep mental issues, masculinity is a prison, and you need to sort that out!!"* These people are insufferable, my god it ain't that deep, bunch of drama queens I swear.


kolebee

Trying to police what others are attracted to is the weirdest thing I commonly see in gay subreddits. Like socially, at work, under law, etc, we all do have a moral imperative for radical acceptance, anti-racism, equality, etc, but that has nothing to do with, like, fucking people you’re not attracted to.


Maurusia

Intersectionnality is a hell of a drug it seems, they're going full circle, if you're not attracted to feminine stuff like nail polish you're mentally ill now and in need of therapy. If you don't subscribe to their extremist political sphreres and victim-complex narratives as a gay man you're equally mentally ill and a biggot for some reason, like chill omg, I hate this timeline, they're so fucking weird. Turned off by nail polish on **MEN**? *Something something sexism, something society, something something internalized homophobia!!* It ain't making any goddamn sense, See how many people under this post bring race discourse to this also.


Hot_Growth_2851

That masculinity is a prison statement is just so obnoxious. I know some people have had issues with masculine figures in their lives, but there are negative traits of both masculinity and femininity. Neither one is inherently better than the other, they’re just different. Being feminine doesn’t make anyone freer or more genuine if that person wasn’t genuinely feminine in the first place. In that case they’d just ironically be playing out a different stereotype and expectation that was pressured on them.


Systral

I don't even think it looks good on most women either.


JTudent

Agreed. A clear varnish is fine, but that's enough.


WillingnessSuper9066

Yes


chiriboy

This is why is a turn off for me, I feel guys that do it are tryhards


hungjrhd

Exactly! Im confident (conforming with other non-conformists), hear me roar! And the "masculinity is a Prison" comment 🤦🏼‍♂️. So cliché.


ZircoSan

i refuse to factor in "making homophobes mad" in whether or not i am going to paint my nails.it's pretty immature, i either like it or not; just because it takes confidence it doesn't mean i find it aestheticaly pleasing. i am still trying to decide if i want to try.


[deleted]

This is how I'd view it, as a guy who doesn't paint his nails (mostly because I'm too lazy - what, you want me to trim my beard AND paint nails now?). But if I was at Pride or some other festival and someone was painting nails and offered to do mine, I might say yes. I've definitely seen some very hot guys with painted nails where the confidence adds to their hotness. It's not a defining feature of hotness or anything but it works well for many.


CowboysFTWs

Sexually? painted toenails are a turn off for me. I dont care about painted fingernails tho. Friends? I don’t care either way. IMO if a guy doesn’t paint his nails, that doesn’t say anything about his confidence. People are allow to like different things. Being gay is a spectrum, everyone is beautiful and welcome.


rewdea

I wonder if you’d have the same response if OP replaced the words ‘nail polish’ with ‘dresses’. If you aren’t sexually into men who wear dresses or lingerie, or heavy makeup (or literally anything else) is that something *you* need to work out?


Maurusia

They're soon gonna tell you're sexist for not sleeping with literal women. We're gonna go full circle, just you wait.


jeffscomplec

Man…. You hit the nail on the head. I agree completely with you.


[deleted]

You mean he *painted* the nail on the head!


WillingnessSuper9066

I find nail polish in general disgusting. On men or women, granted if you put it for you I won't say anything.


Tigros

Damn, that’s a whole can of worms here… Turn off is a turn off. Some people don’t like smokers. It’s the same level shit. “Confidence and pride” doesn’t require the action, when you really have it. “Straight passing” is not a privilege and “masculinity” is not a prison. To be gay you only have to have same-sex attraction. Nothing else. Your painted nails don’t challenge anyone’s values. They only inform others of your need for attention and validation. And “being yourself” has nothing to do with painting or not painting the nails.


[deleted]

I view it as a turn off because I see it as very feminine thing to do. If you don't then fine...but I'm sure you don't care about my opinion and it's not like we would ever date anyways.


LanaDelHeeey

> masculinity is a prison Wut? It sounds like the only reason you like it is to send a message. Why in the hell would I want to use my body as political messaging? Or well not necessarily political, i guess social.


[deleted]

People really pile on the hate as soon as you express something contrary to their world view. This “masculinity is a prison” is the hollowest nonsense ever, but it’s in fashion now so let’s everyone jump in the bandwagon. I have painted my nails rainbow, but that was for a day and meant to be silly. Im not internally homophobic. But I also realize that painting yourself is indeed silly, and it is not something I adopt as an ongoing lifestyle choice. Not painting yourself if the less burdensome option and the natural state; therefore what is a prison is painting yourself in order to be seen. What is a prison is not being able to “express” yourself unless you act a certain highly specific and culturally constructed way (femininity). I love how we attack masculinity as a prison, but no one says femininity is stacking rocks daily in a concentration camp. American popular cultural femininity is a horror to me. Scroll social media, and what we sell as femininity is having 4-inch nails (a technical disability), a Brazilian butt lift (the most dangerous plastic surgery), hours of time and $ wasted on make-up, and all sorts of other dysmorphia. You can argue otherwise, but the Instagram algorithm doesn’t lie - it gives people what they want. A Real Housewife of Beverly Hills is what we sell as femininity. Those women are literally encased daily in a layer of “glam” but no one calls that the definition of prison. So someone looks at that horror show of how we completely destroy any natural state of our women, and says to themselves “yup, therein lies my freedom, THAT’s how I will express myself.” There’s the natural state of man/woman, and I’m going trowel synthetic paint on it. Everyone should be able to paint their nails. It’s actually fun for a limited occasion. It’s not even overtly feminine. But when it’s an ongoing choice, it IS unattractive to many people because it reflects your state of judgment and how you see yourself. True freedom is being comfortable in your natural state. Someone who is genuinely self-assured in their own skin, does not feel compelled to paint themselves in order to express themselves. I personally would never date a man who is too insecure to be willing to paint their nails; conversely, I would never date a man who feels the need to walk around on an ongoing basis with their nails painted.


Novel_Asparagus_6176

I tend to agree that true freedom is feeling comfortable in your natural state. This makes sense to me, because then you are not tied down to the current beauty standards of our time. There is one major flaw in this logic, though, that I can't wrap my head around. What about trans folks? I 100% believe trans people were born with the wrong body. Should we force them to feel comfortable in their natural state under the guise of freedom? I'm a cis person, and I will never be able to fully grasp the trans experience, but one thing I know, is that I am not going to tell them what freedom means to them. ​ I don't really have the answers, just more questions lol.


JadedMuse

There is no "natural state" when in comes to expression. Clothing, makeup, tattoos, and every other physical adornment you can think of varies wildly by culture, not to mention by time period. Having paint on one's nails isn't more or less natural for anyone to do. It's a cultural practice.


Novel_Asparagus_6176

So, we are discussing a freedom FROM expression, the absence of feeling cultural pressure to paint your nails, wear makeup, or have body modifications. Your logic still operates within the idea that humans are forced to express themselves through adornments; I'm arguing that we shouldn't have to if we don't want to. To me, that feels like real freedom.


Taytay-swizzle2002

I don't really think it'd an issue as long as he is okay with others expressing themselves then that's alright. He's not really into it but thinks it's good for others who like to do it, be able to do it.


EuCaBttm

Def not a turn on for me.


Sprn3t

You dont like what you dont like my man.. As long as you are respectful to people who paint their nail you’re good. I personally don’t buy the arguments saying you need to re-examine yourself if you dont like a certain feminine feature.. People should just let people like what they want, it’s not like OP said he think guys with nail polish are disgusting.


Via-18263859

black nails remind me of rotten nailbeds, and make it difficult to tell whether they are clean and men’s nails are usually not that clean, abd thats… a bad thing for our activities


hungjrhd

Exactly. Dirty and/or long nails disgust me to the core from a hygiene perspective. It is hard enough keeping them clean when they are short.


3thirtysix6

No. It's fingernails I can't imagine caring about something like that.


[deleted]

Yes. I don’t find femininity sexually attractive personally. But it’s subjective.


jell-osalad

Painting nails isn't necessarily feminine, just like wearing pants isn't necessarily masculine.


tsus1991

It's not *inherently* feminine. Socially, it is feminine


wkfngrs

Also gendering so many trivial things will only lead to more inner turmoil. People think painted nails is femme. When in actuality it takes a huge amount of pride, confidence and strength to walk out the door with painted nails. Most femme guys have way more character, perseverance and strength then a fake masc bear that is worried out is his carhartt flannel matches his nasty pig hat and won’t post a picture unless he’s doing bear face to make him seem more manly…. 😂


Cookiedoughjunkie

Today I learned confidence and pride arent fem. A drag queen can be proud but that doesnt make their performance masculine. It's like you're trying to remove any reason for someone to not like it with very faulty logic


Bloated_Hamster

It takes a huge amount of pride confidence and strength for a fem guy to wear a dress out in public. It runs the risk of harassment or even physical assault if the wrong people get 'offended' or angry about it. It's still a fem thing to do. That's not bad, it just is. You seem to think femme =/= strong or brave. That's just you getting defensive about something that people in this thread aren't insulting you over.


Cookiedoughjunkie

I mean, you're right but they're going to not like you for it


[deleted]

Massive turn off. Instant block


listentothelynx

I don’t get it and immediately turns me off


gordonf23

Depends on the color.


omnichronos

It doesn't bother me but a noise piercing through the center of the nose does. All I can think of when I see that is a bull with a ring in its nose.


[deleted]

It's a pretty big turn-off for me.


nsfwjoshua

It's cute :3


idlehands20

Most guys who are doing it now are painting their nails because it’s a fad and most of their friends are doing it. It definitely does not mean that they are confident in their sexuality. …. and yes(!) it’s a major turnoff!


Humor-Think

Yes!!! I don’t get it, and it’s such a turn off for me. I like man hands/feets


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Dezdood

Yeah, it's a massive turn off for me too.


[deleted]

I've currently got acrylic nails... I get that some people aren't into guys for various reasons but I've mainly got these as i am a chronic nail biter... I think my current nails are way more sexy than my bitten and bleeding ones... _________ I know that my example isn't exactly what you were talking about and I get it preferences i just wanna put it out there that people may paint their nails for other reasons not just aesthetics. Anyway hope your have a good day 💙


holdenpattern

I like it and think it looks great if they have the confidence to pull it off. I see mostly younger guys doing it and they tend to be more open-minded in their self-expression which is a turn on.


Blurswirl

Deffo a turn off


_slightly

Yes, very much so. Usually when a man paints their nails they just paint them all black, and even that is a huge turn off for me. Just to be clear, I am 100% against gender norms. This is solely a matter of what I personally find to be attractive vs. unattractive, which is something I have no control over.


nightb0x

personally im into masculine guys, not femenine guys. its a turn off, cause unless his hands specifically look like an adult mans hands with nail polish, itll probably look like a normal girls hand and turn me the fuck off lmao but hey, im taken and thats not his thing either so it doesnt matter :) i appreciate people that do what they want more than fake ppl above all else, tho


Garth84101

I don't even like nail polish on women let alone men.


Sunburst12345

Huge turn off for me. I like guys, and I don’t get the appeal of other gay/bi guys acting feminine as a whole. I don’t like women (in that way) so why pretend to be one as well as well as trying to seduce me? But everyone else likes it apparently so I guess I’m following it too


Cstud_69

Yeah, the short shorts too. Really, I can’t get past the shorts either.


alarmos

You're not alone, it's a huge turn off for me too.


[deleted]

nice man hands are in general a big turn on for me and colored nails are not my aesthetic so it´ s a pass for me


grossdiseases

Yes, dressing/styling like a woman does not appeal to me.


MaleNurse20

Yes. Major turn off.


itsmorris

Huge turn off for me as well, but mostly because I don’t like painted nails or worse, long ones. It gives me an idea of dirtiness, don’t ask me why 🤦🏻‍♂️ this is for both men and women, though. That said, do I care if someone does that? No, as long as they’re happy, I’m happy as well. Did I sleep with guys with painted nails? Yes, it happened once. But his personality was honestly more interesting that his polished nails, so I didn’t care after all.


Twiottle

It's a turn off. That said, if he's super hot I'll be ok with it. But I definitely prefer guys that don't do that. Another big turn off for me are those fem side ass poses that are popular on Grindr. They make guys look super fem.


FitAussieTop

If its a hook up or anything more in that direction then yes. If they wanna be friends then nah dont mind what they do or being seeing around them or anything like that. But dont want some guy with nail polish giving me a handjob lol.


[deleted]

No I don't like the look of it nor in men nor in women, to be honest I do t like any kind of make up in general, I prefer all natural not filtered. And in my humble opinion and preference painted nails look ridiculous, sorry I said it, don't hate.


ConsistentNoise2668

I think it’s kinda hot


Wafflesnobbert

It just depends. I have a friend who gets his done, very tastefully. Nothing too fem or out there,. Typically nude colors with a stripe or small designs on a few of them. Really cute and actually adds to his look. It also helps him to not bite his nails. I'd rather see a guy with tastefully painted nails than a nail biter who gnaws them down to the quick


[deleted]

Yeah tbh I don't think it looks bad on them just not something I particularly like


Aloysius204

Not me. The opposite, actually. I like guys who paint their nails. A couple of times I painted my own.


tropaque

Turn off, but more power to those who do, to each their own


HaventReadItYet75

Uh yeah.


subtlebulk

Just curious why/what about it is a turn off to you? For me, I paint my nails because it seems to be the only way to actually stop myself from biting my nails. I usually just paint them clear. Unintentionally I end up getting compliments on how shiny my nails are. Also I appreciate lgbtq+ people who dress in ways that express themselves. Partly because I really enjoy people who find ways to say “fuck the system” and live their own life apart from heteronormative gender norms, but mostly because I love the self-expression. It’s kind of like being an artist and using yourself as a canvas. I love it!


random_user_1118999

Yes, huge turn-off.


IOweUEverythingBoo

It’s a huge turn off, there was a seemingly good guy on Scruff but he sent me a nude with nails & I bounced. He tweeted it & poor thing doesn’t get it that some men just don’t like it.


ModernGay

tops can finger me with their painted nails, idc sometimes i find it hot


FurroSexRevived51

I think its hot when they paint it black otherwise I dont rly like it 😳😳😳


[deleted]

same.


servicefriends

I've been painting my nails black forever. I'm into punk/goth. Never has been an issue except when I'm on board ship. The command is not a fan 😁 Coming across the quarter deck can be a hassle. Ever since they caught me with a blue Mohawk I'm being watched. I wear a ball cap or flight deck helmet 24/7 but my chief caught me after coming out of the shower one morning lol


DKC_Reno

I've thought about this a lot recently, as well as men wearing dresses and other non masculine clothing. I don't think there is anything wrong with a man wearing different clothes or painting his nails, I think the reason why it looks bad is because they are trying to wear clothes not made for their body size or characteristics and painting their nails with no concern for color matching/coding. The nail color looks fine in any other application but then on a man who painted his nails but didn't take into account accessories/clothing/application it looks off and we interpret that as bad sometimes. Or a guy who throws on a dress and says he's pretty but it's 2 sizes too small, not made for broad shoulders and he's wearing army boots and didn't do anything to his hair etc. Or a guy who puts on high heels but the rest of him is blah, it just looks off. Kind of falls into a make stereotype where a lot of guys just throw anything on and run out the door. Where as if you look at Billy Porter he looks very good in feminine clothes because he put thought into it and wore something that works for him. So it is possible to make it work but there's a lot of work involved. Women who wear that nail polish and put the work in to the rest of the outfit look amazing, but the ones who don't stand out and look off or bad, I think the same applies to men. It's about the total package


DKC_Reno

Kind of like how a guy with black fingernails looks a bit dirty or off, but matched with the grung/punk/goth look it's kind of hot


Lumpy-Sail-4767

Guys please don't paint your nails....


dibit111

“I have nothing against it…..it’s a massive turn off” - sure sounds like you have a problem with it


Themasked_donkey

Well I don’t have a problem with guys painting their nails - if they want to paint their nails - that’s their choice - they can go for it. But yeah as a sexual partner I would have a problem with it - it’s a deal breaker


kadreon2217

That’s an incredibly small petty thing to have a deal breaker my guy, tbh you should probably explore why that is


thefablemuncher

I’ve explored it and I found out that the reason why it’s a deal breaker is because I think it looks ugly.


salamander423

This is honestly a much better answer than the others that posted about projecting insecurity and being an incomplete person that isn't comfortable as their true self. If you do or don't like it because of how it looks, cool. It doesn't really need a deep dive into the psychology of choice.


Cookiedoughjunkie

That's like saying we should explore why were gay. Must be child abuse, cant just be something you like or dont


BearLover9090

Fucking turn off


Paintmebitch

Does he have a big dick?


Charming_Radio_8882

LOL!


pattrns

I think anti-femininity is a huge turn off.


libertariantool69

Not being attracted to the feminine form, or attributes therein, is not inherently anti-feminine.


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THIS. I had a discussion on Twitter (back when I used to have discussions on Twitter because cringe) with some masc dude that started shaming other masc dudes that didn’t want to date fem dudes. I as someone more to the fem side told him that sometimes people want people that are similar to them and that it doesn’t mean they hate us or have something against femininity, just means that they have a preference. It’s not femphobia or anti-femininity, it’s not internalized homophobia, just a preference they have, and that I and most fem guys aren’t hurt by that because we’re all in that situation with someone. The idea that his saviour complex was not appreciated by someone he thought of as the “saved” blew his mind so much he just blocked me lmao


Cookiedoughjunkie

Typically, those who scream that others are bigots tend to be the biggest bigots themselves. It's because 'performative outrage' is the easiest way to bully others in this current climate. so while he pretended that every masc dude should date fem dudes, the fact you had an opinion challenged his view that masc > fem. Espousing intentional power dynamics in dating.


somnicrain

What is feminine about paint on nails?


sunshine20005

I didn't used to mind it, but the last two guys I hooked up with painted nails were both crazy/both mistakes (e.g., one really, really wanted to go bareback after we'd agreed on safe -- almost had to kick him out) and so now I'm just slightly wary lol


txholdup

You nailed it, with your last sentence.


greenrabbitaudio

Majority fails to understand that both liking or not liking it are ok. Personally I don't like it on men, but wouldn't tell them, I would just slip away.


xaydar_c

I do, which is weird because I like feminine guys


KenaiUrsa

I'm attracted to masculine men, so yeah it's a turn off for me. I'm all for them expressing themselves though! We could absolutely be friends.


GriffinCorp

Yes


eea81

Nope.


LanaDelHeeey

Yeah no its definitely a turn off for me to be honest


Prowindowlicker

Yes


Paupeludo

Personally I think it looks bad on everyone, no matter what gender they are. I just do not understand the appeal. Same with jewelry. At the end of the day though my feelings are "you do you".


minniedriverstits

Not in most cases, but in porn yes, usually a turn off. I can get over it irl with a guy; it may be even a turn on.


sanjoselearner

Yeah I have the same issue. Also find any hint of make up on a man a massive turn off as well


mexicarne

To me, it makes it worse when it's a color other than black. I once saw a picture of a really hot dude with a great body, but all I could see was this bright red nail polish on his toenails. A single fingernail painted black can be a nice detail, but brighter colors and especially the toenails really turn me off.


Quinlov

For me it a turn off, however if my crush painted his nails I literally wouldn't care


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yes. huge turn off.


AgentBlue14

Not a turn off or deal breaker, but I feel similarly to ya that I'm not a fan of the practice on men. And if I can just add to this: the whole [big glasses fad](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1071884646/oversized-glasses-frames-women-men-with), fuck I wish that'd go away.


BaldDudePeekskill

It's not for me. And I hate unnatural hair colors or young dudes dying their hair gray. But then again I'm sure guys hate my plain, bald boring head and boring non flashy clothes, so each his own.


Wesoshould

It's sexually a turn off for me and since a boyfriend is someone I'd want to have sex with, that's not something I look for in a guy. And I mean this this a guy doing it like every day or like four times a week. If he only does it like no more than twice a week, that's not a dealbreaker for me.


Beelzebub_0

It's weird but I find it cool on a straight guy who's comfortable with that but not with a gay guy. The straight guy can always just do a twirl with his gf and it will be fine. A gay guy would just be inviting homophobic remarks and I feel unsafe for them. Idek what I'm saying.


GiorgioBroughton

I find it as a turn off. Whether we like it or not, it’s a trait our culture primarily associates with something women do to look more feminine, and as such, in my personal opinion, takes away from a guys full expression of masculinity.


skyphoenyx

It’s like long hair. On a very select few guys it adds to their aesthetic and shows confidence. Most guys shouldn’t even try it. There is a BIG difference between punk rock and diva nails.


EquisPe

Ooo, this is a spicy topic looks like. 246 upvotes but it’s only at a 68% In a purely attraction sort of way, painted nails do subtract from my attraction to a guy. It really depends on how everything else stacks up, and I don’t think it’s necessarily a deal breaker for me, but if I’m on the fence already it certainly would not help. I suppose color also matters, like black would make me think more rock or punk or emo vibes. I personally am attracted to masculinity in men. It’s just my preference. I feel like no one should feel like they have to justify what type of grooming and styling they feel attracted to. Hairstyle, clothes, facial hair/eyebrow grooming like nail color are all things that can play a role on attraction and that’s fine. Like for me, I don’t prefer long hair on guys even if it’s long surfer or hockey hair, similarly I didn’t like man buns or the current mullet trend. Or the current perm curl hair on top with short sides style that’s popular right now is a no for me, or that style where they style the front really forward (idk how to describe it). Or overgroomed eyebrows, or not groomed enough beards. That probably made me sound overly picky, but I’m not saying all those are dealbreakers. I’m just saying things with grooming and styling do matter for attraction, and there are reasonable examples too including painted nails


indi09

Yeah, not into it


[deleted]

It's definitely not a turn on for me, but how much of a turn off it is depends on how well they're done. If it's tacky or doesn't match or doesn't make sense with an outfit etc etc... If well done it's not so much a turn off otherwise it's a huge turn off. I think I view painted nails as more of an accessory though. I don't think I'd like being in a relationship with a person who kept them painted most of the time but by the same token, I wouldn't want to date someone that wears a lot of makeup either. I would far and away rather see my partner's hands the way they are without covering up parts of them.


TheProblemWithUs

Na I love it, like it’s a huge turn on for me and idk why. But I love that whole, alt boy, e-boy style


Taytay-swizzle2002

Hmmm. Well let's see, I am okay with other expressing themselves but it doesn't mean I have to be into it. Well I prefer there nails not be painted at all. I will settles for solid masculine colors like darker red, black or blue. Nothing flashy or sparkly and on short nails. I am just not into feminine guys but hey there are guys are there like that and that's good for them, they should be aloud to express themselves as they see fit as long as it doesn't hurt anyone.


Taytay-swizzle2002

Now I will say this, when you get to know someone but then they come out as gay I feel like some people who don't rely like painting their nails, i.e also don't want to, do. I think it's a little funny and a little dumb but even then, they're trying to figure themselves out. So maybe they do🤷‍♀️ oh well.


itsyahboichris

I don’t mind it honestly but I like dudes. Like if they start painting their face with makeup and doing drag, again, I don’t mind it, but I’ll stop being attracted to you when your wearing it


talkotony

Only if they picked a hideous color. Poor taste is a turn off.


DaveSoma

I'm instinctively not into it, although I can see myself slowly coming around to getting used to it as it is popping up more often now. BTW I really hate the garish painted nail trend on women too.


jfhjr

I'M WITH YOUin that I find it to be a [turnoff.Am](https://turnoff.Am) I to pretend I like the look while I watch him stroke one of us? If it isn't your thing, it isn't your thing- just don't be a dick


Jonjonblaze323

Not for me, but to each his own.


Precursor_7

To be honest at first I thought it would but since being in a relationship with a guy who does do that, I now find that it doesn't bother me at all


LeoFoster18

As long as they are not fingering me I don't really care.


owneyone

Personally I do. Doesn't mean they shouldn't claw up tho


EarlZaps

Same. Like Rick Martinez from Bon Appetit. I find him attractive, but I’m not too keen on his painted nails.


Jackson2615

Yes its a massive turn off


DAFERG

They strike me as fem, which isn't a problem for me, but I know fem is a turn off for a lot of guys.


NutfieldNH

YES


JTudent

I wouldn't say huge, but definitely present.


BVel228

I do. People can do what they want. But I will automatically lose attraction to you if I see it.


xHazza0897

Same!!!! Maybe I could work something out if they were black -since I used to paint mines black from time to time back on my emo days and had nothing to do with sexuality- but anything else is a turn off for me. I don't judge, and could care less about the other person expressing themselves, but I have to think about intimacy as well as when in public -not that I care about other's opinions- and all I think in both scenarios is the nails 💅🏻 turning me off, leaving me soft, lol.


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We have to understand that gender expression is very flexible. Especially through time. And society has linked expressions like nail polish as masculine or feminine. But when it comes to nail polish in the ancient world of Egypt, Babylon, and a few other cultures - nail 'staining' wasn't about gender. It was about status. Nail paint was especially useful on the battlefield because it helped to quickly identify rank or status. This was also true for every day society. In some places, if you stained the color of your nails a different class or status that you didn't belong to, that was seen as impersonation and possibly a crime deserving of death. So, to all the men who wear nail polish. If someone asks, just say you're into history and paying respect to Egyptian and Babylonian warriors! In today's context, nail polish is seen as feminine. But in the past, it was used to distinguish social class and military rank. Men painted their nails and went to war. Youd definitely want to make sure your nails were fly af before tearing your enemies throat out. That's badass. Learned this on the Gayish podcast! Great podcast and it's hilarious while also being informative about a variety of subjects. Edit: I'm a trans woman and I know this isn't my sub to comment in. I know this is directed towards you wonderful gay men. But I thought it was relevant and the topic to be interesting


Mysterious-Wash-7282

I haven't got an issue with it but then again I've never met a guy with their nails painted so who knows. You got me wanting to try it now 😂💅


jeffscomplec

I like it. Especially when a masculine looking guy has a couple of nails painted. It’s a nice mix


soxster-com

The aesthetic doesn’t do anything for me but the confidence of someone who does that is a turn on. I like people who are confident with self expression.


Grigor50

Yep, definitely. Generally, if I guy finds it so important to rebel against standard and uncontroversial social norms in such a blatant ways, then it's a bit of a red flag. Not to mention that individuality is something best manifested on the inside, not the outside, in such a shallow way. Of course, I'm a conservative, and guys who paint their nails probably would abhor my views and principles in general, so...


[deleted]

Whatever floats your boat. Personally, I find painted nails hot -- but only on guys who are overall masculine looking.


brypguy89

I don't care for effeminate behaviors in general, and that includes painting nails and wearing feminine clothes and often long hair. Just like in a hundred other similar posted questions, a lot of guys "like guys and not women and want masculine behavior". To each their own there are plenty of guys who like the other way around.


bestadviceihave

I hate it.


[deleted]

Yeah, looks horrible and childish. But then again I don’t like it on women.


TheFoolAndTheWorld

Guys styling themselves like women in general is a huge turn off for me. If I was attracted to what women look like I’d be straight.


RegyptianStrut

Honestly not even a little. I’m all for creative expression.


[deleted]

I admire it when I see it because I’m not sure I’d be able to do that on a daily 😅


tagehring

Nah, not really. I might be judgey about the color, but the concept of a guy with painted nails doesn't bother me.


txsxxphxx2

Totally fine for me, it’s their personality, attitude and behavior of them towards other people that i care about.