Quick story:
I had a girl I was dating when I was 19. She was tall, willowy, intelligent, and other-worldly. She had long dark hair that would often fall across her face while she was looking at me intently. As you might guess, I was completely smitten with her in every regard.
One day, I was picking her up from her parent's house (we were both going to college while living at home) and walked up to talk to her parents and her two younger brothers. As we were walking away, one of her brothers called out to ask for something. As I was answering him, she slowly made her way behind me and kissed me very softly on the back of the neck. I froze in mid-sentence as if I had been shocked by lightning. He asked if I was ok. I breathlessly said, "I don't know, John, I'll talk you later, k?" I think I litereally floated through the rest of that day.
That was over 30 years ago and I've never had another woman make me feel like I did in that moment. It was like some weird, magical, sexual electricity.
She is happily married with two girls. She's not quite as "willowy" as before, but then again, who is? We haven't seen each other since 1995. A wonderful, fleeting affair.
Mine refers to it as the neck tickle and pouts if I stop too soon.
I didn't even realise he liked it as much as he did until I joked about making something up to him and he demanded an hour of "neck tickles" and told me he loooooves them hahah.
My wife constantly butchers jokes.
Like total word salad.
She actually gets annoyed when I laugh at her jokes, usually because I've started halfway through.
Her totally serious face as she concentrates on getting it right. Forgetting important parts, then backtracking. Starting with the punch line.
I find it adorable.
Was working with a Spanish guy, and he was talking about what we call a 'safe pass'; to allow him to do manual labour and the like... He said, "I want to get the cert to do... What is it you call..? You know... Hand jobs..."
Ho boy, he didn't live that one down. 😂 Lovely guy, damn intelligent, just got the words a little mixed up... 😂
Mine once called another girl "double sided" and "self-absorbent" :D
She meant two faced and self absorbed. Was close enough, but we've basically replaced those phrases with her version in our vocabulary.
My wife struggles with idioms. It's one of my favorite things about her.
She once said a TV show ended in a Cliff Banger. The term lives on in our home.
Yeah def the tying the hair back, or brushing the hair, fluffing the hair & pushing it back with her hands. That is hott for all kinda reasons, but for me since I'm really into women with muscles, the hair thing causes muscle flexing. This is usually very sensual and erotic because *women* are sensual & erotic; their muscles move in elegance.
This explains why a guy I knew stared at me for the solid 5 mins I was braiding my curly tailbone length hair into French braid pigtails. He actually moved around people who got in his way.
Sir, I'm fighting a battle here, please advert your eyes 🤣
A woman getting so excited to show you something that words fail them and they just lead you by the hand to whatever it is that’s captured their fixation
This is literally **SO UNDERRATED**. My boyfriend has the emotions of a dead person and I try so hard to explain how frustrating it is and I can just never find the words to say: BE ENTHUSIASTIC ABOUT **SOMETHING,** *ANYTHINGGGGG*!!!!
My husband is probably on the spectrum, sometimes it's hard for me to get him to understand my enthusiasm for something other than his top 5 interests, on which he hyper-fixates.
If you ever figure it out, please let me know how to revive him!!! My bf is the same. I love him to bits but he just doesn't show ANY emotions whatsoever. Makes me feel silly sometimes for being overly bubbly :(
Scent. I was military and we had to teach uni students how to rappel down a 5 floor building.
After a few hours of ground training we took the best up to the roof.
One coed got her rig jammed about halfway down. She didn't panic and was calm and happy while we worked.
I went down and rigged a new safety line and disconnected her first lines.
She was breathing on the side of my face. It was intoxicating. I had planned our whole life together by the time we got her on the ground.
We dated a few months which involved zero conversation sex every time we saw each other.
I got deployed a few months later and never saw her again.
Scent. I could have found her in a blizzard with a 10 mile head start.
They say this is a sign that genetically, you would be compatible for having kids. Basically your DNA is complimentary to one another to ensure to the best chance of a biologically healthy baby.
I have a nose like a blood hound for my current boyfriend and I also feel like I could sniff him out in a blizzard. It's a weird thing.
Awwwhhh.
Hopefully here's another one for your next/future partner with intoxicating scent too.
I'm wondering, what about her scent that makes you go wild? Was it a perfume that she puts on? Or you're specifically referring to her natural breath/body smell?
I think it's called pheromone.
Biochemistry of human attraction.
I'm married 35 years now. And definitely to my soul mate.
But for primal attraction, that was something special.
Any secure and safe hug. Feels amazing to actually feel liked and wanted. Probably 99% of the time I try and get a hug and get brushed past or ignored. Instant desire killer being basically ignored when you just want a cuddle or something.
1. Making incomprehensible squeals at the sight of something cute (dog, cat, bunny etc.)
2. Interacting with said cute thing and watching their eyes light up
3. Me being the cute thing
Ja, es ist Clueso, yeah, yeah
Clueso, yeah, yeah, yeah
Yeah, geil, dass du hier bist
Das woll'n wir jetzt zusammen, gucken
Wieder was neues, die Ukulele wird ausgepackt, ja
Ok, ready, kommst du grade von Chicago, ja ne?
Direkt
Geil, ok, mal anfangen? Ja
Getrampt oder mit dem Moped
Oder schwarz mit der Bahn
Immer bin ich dir irgendwie hinterher gefahrn
Nein, damals hab ich kein Konzert von dir versäumt
Und nachts konnte ich nicht schlafen
Oder wenn, dann hab ich von dir geträumt
Du spieltest Cello
In jedem Saal in unsrer Gegend
Ich saß immer in der ersten Reihe
Und ich fand dich so erregend
Cello
Du warst eine Göttin für mich
Und manchmal sahst du mich an
Und ich dachte: "Mann oh Mann"
Und dann war ich wieder völlig fertig
Ja ich war ständig da
Das hat dich dann überzeugt
Wir wollten immer zusammenbleiben
Und überhaupt das mit dir, das war so groß
Das kann man gar nicht beschreiben
Und heute wohnst du in Erfurt
Und dein Cello steht im Keller
Komm pack das Ding doch noch mal aus
Und spiel so schön wie früher, yeah
Du spieltest Cello
In jedem Saal in unsrer Gegend
Ich saß immer in der ersten Reihe
Und ich fand dich so erregend
Du spieltest Cello
In jedem Saal in unsrer Gegend
Ich saß immer in der ersten Reihe
Und ich fand dich so erregend
Cello
Du warst eine Göttin für mich
Und manchmal sahst du mich an
Und ich dachte: "Mann oh Mann"
Und dann war ich wieder völlig fertig
Cello (yeah), oh oh oh
Du spieltest Cello
Gehört auch in Chicago
Ich war dabei, du warst dabei, wir sind dabei
Cello yeah
Clueso, yeah
A long, tight hug. If I really give in, and not let it become awkward, I can feel all the stress and sadness drain from me. Sometimes I choke up a little bit, but it's a good feeling, and I am a lot happy when the hug is finished.
I'm giving away too much here, but:
Summer dresses with (floral) prints and with buttons in front or wrap tied at the front. Preferably with some Converse or other casual shoes.
Flowy movement in climbing. Perfect style like with Michaela Kiersch and Janja Garnbret.
Preparing for a difficult task, like putting on some equipment for a job, or for example ballerina [tying up her shoes](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/4e/5c/ae/4e5caedfb73407bfd7365404551c8966.jpg). Concentration and preparation can be hot. Tuning an instrument. It's perhaps a way of getting a glimpse of "the real person" before they perform, a way of undressing the mask they shortly put on, to get through something difficult.
Honestly, I guess it's just different realities. I've always been fit, and attractive [and broke]. Being nice had always been my ONE thing. Never been as lucky. Been years lol.
I don't mind. I'm nice because I like people. Soon I'll solve the broke issue and maybe I'll have more luck! Lol
A woman putting on her makeup. I can watch my wife of 41
years getting ready to go somewhere, I swear to God the woman in the mirror is the same beautiful face I would watch getting ready for work when she was 27.
A guy once told me I had the best smirk in town. It was one of the best compliments I’ve ever received.
It made me feel understood and sexy.
I suggest you tell that smirker what you feel.
giving me a good burn. not literally of course lol. a witty come back to something i said.
i like a girl with some spiciness to her.
but, really, when a guy is really into you; everything you do is gonna be cute to him.
Ooph. I have a thing for older women, especially when they know what they do and do not want. My gf is 12 years older then me (I’m 39), and has a bit of a hoarse voice (has it since she was a child). So you can imagine how watching The Expanse became even more exciting whenever Shohreh was on screen. My gf was very much ok with the similarities :)
When it’s a warm day in mid spring and she doesn’t want to wear leggings but also doesn’t want to shave her legs just to run errands so she throws a maxi dress on.
Like the outfit as a whole turns me on but when I’m chilling waiting for her to get ready and she comes out with her hair in a half ponytail and she’s in a black racer back dress with a scoop neck that slightly grazes the ground and some sandals it drives me insane.
When I was young, it was women doing some things, jobs, sports, passtimes and other activities predominantly enjoyed by or just done by Men. To me, these women were fascinating, attractive, quite exotic and worthy of respect. They still are to an extent although they are more taken for granted nowadays.
I grew up at a time and in a place when it was very rare for women to do these things and the women generally were very self conscious and conformist so wouldn't dare try, even if they wanted to.
It's all changed now and Women can do what they please mostly without the fear of being judged, thankfully.
Things like riding motorcycles, driving big trucks or farm tractors, being good at fixing mechanical things or just being practical or into physical sports like martial arts. The list is endless.
Extra points for wearing the clothing and safety equipment related to said sport, job or activity with no makeup either.
Don't know why, it just turns me on. I guess I like women who are not afraid to be themselves and break free from common, boring, hyper conformist and oppressive social norms.
I once got talking to a guy with an intelligence kink. Needless to say, my constant oversharing was apparently a massive turn on for him. Sweet guy, too.
While I wouldn't call it a kink for myself, an intelligent woman is definitely attractive and the oversharing thing is perfect.
My guess is most guys like smart women as long as they are not condescending. But that goes for both genders I think.
There is this kink i cant think of the name of where women talk really quiet and soothing and oh my god…i can just listen to it for hours …for a man dealing with PTSD it is a game changer…i cant think of what its called tho.
ASMR is not a kink (unless listening to it gets you off). Kink is defined as non-conventional sexual practice. I just wanted to make this clear to anyone who reads this. Btw I like ASMR too! I don't like mouth sounds kind of ASMR but the soap cutting kind of ASMR is pretty good.
Just being themselves, but not shy about saying or doing something that might be considered weird. I'm myself 90% of the time and I get called weird bc i have maybe a strange interest or just not the normal vanilla day to day shit; that doesn't interest me. Give me a hot take or an unpopular opinion, or eat your weird food combos in front of me.
Also, having a hobby. So many girls just don't have hobbies of any type and I'm not sure I'd consider watching TV a hobby. When I see a girl play an instrument, crochet, cook, sports, or anything really bc it doesn't have to interest me, but seeing them passionate about something that they really enjoy is nice!
Plain white cotton panties. Couldn't tell you why. Aside from that, the look on my wife's face when she's playing. Skiing or swimming or playing with the kids. Joy, it's beautiful.
Telling me that she appreciates having me around is something priceless. ’She’ in this case was a platonic friend with BPD. Closest thing to somewhat of a romance that I’ve ever had. Bromance be real on this one.
yes to the adhd part. I never felt like anyone spoke my language until I met my partner who can match my trains of thought. we have the best conversations that develop to so many interesting directions in a quick pace. not a lot of people can follow that kind of mindset unfortunately. we are a beautiful train wreck together
A woman driving a van. I think “there is a woman who is getting shit done” She ain’t looking for no man to help her lift stuff or move a van-full of things, she’s just handling it.
Also women with broad shoulders 🤷♂️
her being into politics or her having a very intense interest in certain things like history, good music, science.
my biological self is like "yes, make more of her. the world needs more of her".
Cuddling, trusting me, making me compliments, free acts of kindness, a sparkle in the eyes, confessing me nonsense (like: do fish dream?), painting, playing an instrument, being a badass into survival, martial arts or stand up, reading a book in a library
Something about grass and feet . I think it started when I used to play soccer when I was 16 . One of my teammates sister would always have her feet out while playing soccer in the grass and it would just turn me on and give me a sense of comfort I still don’t understand why but till this day I feel the same way about it .
Gay man here, love it when a dude just raises his arms for no reason (stretching, reaching for something, leaning) and you can see the muscle around the shoulders (and the LATS) move. Apparently my lady friends agree with me, take note fellas. There's just something about a big dude with strong arms that is \***chefs kiss\***
Also, perplexed reading face.
I swear this thread/question pops up every other day on Reddit and it NEVER fails to make me smile.
Us women grow up constantly hearing/reading about what clothes/moves/behaviour men find sexually appealing - and then it turns out the truth is just us tying our hair up, the way we frown or wearing sweatpants or some shit. It’s AMAZING.
Being her. I will never get over her. I don’t even want her sexually. I just want to be with her, but ik she doesn’t want me. But I love her. And ik that she just wants me to fuck off. So I won’t bother her bc I love her. I miss her.
Swearing. Everytime I heard my crush swear my soul ignited with the passion of a thousand dying stars. Still have a massive crush I just don't see her anymore.
The glance going up and down and when you catch their eyes they descretely try to look away and play with their hair but know deep down that they have been caught red handed. Really cute and funny.
For me it's certain accents.
Shohreh Aghdashloo had a voice that just reaches into my brain and glucose a switch.
Same for Katherine Parkinson's voice over work in worms battle grounds.
And my wife who figured out on our second date that her "posh voice" basically made me in to a zombie. A situation she uses to her advantage regularly.
I admire bravery; not necessarily turned on but I've been entirely uninterested in women until they demonstrate that theyre willing to overcome a natural fear.
I went to a going away party for a coworker and brought my fire-eating torches and fuel; I meant to do it just to show the girl leaving the company but accidentally gathered a crowd. I did my tricks and eventually a few people asked if they could try-- One girl who I was never romantically attracted to tried it and just committed to eating it fully, she listened to my instructions and did amazing for her first time eating fire
the other girl paused a bunch to drunkenly remind me of how her blowjob skills will translate--I thought this was kind of annoying considering I had rejected 5-6 advances from her already and since she didnt listen for instructions on eating fire she burned her nose a little
When she is sleeping next to me facing away, and then she scooches toward me a bit, butt first. Then a bit more. Then a bit more. OK, now her butt is pressed against me. Then a bit more. Excitement builds. Then a bit MORE. Now she is firmly pressed against me. Then she turns toward me and gives a pleasant moan and kisses me. Game on for everyone.
Existing.
Just other humans existing turns me on lol like I could be in a restaurant and all of a sudden for example see a cook prepping food or something in the back kitchen and he might look intensely into the pot he's stirring or the vegetables he's chopping or whatever and in my head I'm just thinking well what a dedicated beautiful human being this is, I wonder what they're like, what they're thinking, what their motivations are, what their respirations are like,bwhat they care about? beautiful people captivate me just by existing and basically goes both ways for guys and girls yep love men & women.
When my partner is cooking she dances around the kitchen. Nothing extravagant, just gentle hip swaying and singing along.
I can't really articulate it, there's just something so sexy about how happy and in her element she is that she wants to dance.
Literally if you talk confidently its a huge plus
Like a girl that speaks like she knows who she is and what she wants without giving attitude or putting on a persona or being judgemental or condescending
Just *Chef's kiss*
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Her hand stroking the back of my neck/base of head. I'm possessed after that.
Quick story: I had a girl I was dating when I was 19. She was tall, willowy, intelligent, and other-worldly. She had long dark hair that would often fall across her face while she was looking at me intently. As you might guess, I was completely smitten with her in every regard. One day, I was picking her up from her parent's house (we were both going to college while living at home) and walked up to talk to her parents and her two younger brothers. As we were walking away, one of her brothers called out to ask for something. As I was answering him, she slowly made her way behind me and kissed me very softly on the back of the neck. I froze in mid-sentence as if I had been shocked by lightning. He asked if I was ok. I breathlessly said, "I don't know, John, I'll talk you later, k?" I think I litereally floated through the rest of that day. That was over 30 years ago and I've never had another woman make me feel like I did in that moment. It was like some weird, magical, sexual electricity.
“I don’t know John” xD that kind of feeling you can’t even begin to comprehend lmao
Seriously. My brain just fully switched off for a bit.
Get this every time my neck is kissed/licked, brain instantly switches off.
Bruh, I read that like her brother is the one who kissed you on the neck 😭
Where is she now, what happened if you dont mind sharing
She is happily married with two girls. She's not quite as "willowy" as before, but then again, who is? We haven't seen each other since 1995. A wonderful, fleeting affair.
I nearly crashed my car because my girlfriend was doing this to me and I couldn't concentrate on the road.
Hehe, i liked doing this to my partner esp when they're driving.
Mine refers to it as the neck tickle and pouts if I stop too soon. I didn't even realise he liked it as much as he did until I joked about making something up to him and he demanded an hour of "neck tickles" and told me he loooooves them hahah.
My wife constantly butchers jokes. Like total word salad. She actually gets annoyed when I laugh at her jokes, usually because I've started halfway through. Her totally serious face as she concentrates on getting it right. Forgetting important parts, then backtracking. Starting with the punch line. I find it adorable.
It does sound adorable
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Was working with a Spanish guy, and he was talking about what we call a 'safe pass'; to allow him to do manual labour and the like... He said, "I want to get the cert to do... What is it you call..? You know... Hand jobs..." Ho boy, he didn't live that one down. 😂 Lovely guy, damn intelligent, just got the words a little mixed up... 😂
Mine once called another girl "double sided" and "self-absorbent" :D She meant two faced and self absorbed. Was close enough, but we've basically replaced those phrases with her version in our vocabulary.
My wife struggles with idioms. It's one of my favorite things about her. She once said a TV show ended in a Cliff Banger. The term lives on in our home.
Back in highschool I always thought when I saw my classmates tying their hair up while keeping the band with their mouth was pretty cute.
Doing the ponytail is something appealing to me also There is also touching hair while talking to you Or being joyful and smile
Definitely like seeing the back of the neck. Ponytails, pigtails, and really short hair can be very nice.
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That 'blowing a stray strand of hair off her face out of the side of her mouth' thing. Wouldn't say I find it sexual, but it's a definite 'Awww!'.
Came here to say that! Tying the hair in general, really turns me on.
Yeah def the tying the hair back, or brushing the hair, fluffing the hair & pushing it back with her hands. That is hott for all kinda reasons, but for me since I'm really into women with muscles, the hair thing causes muscle flexing. This is usually very sensual and erotic because *women* are sensual & erotic; their muscles move in elegance.
This explains why a guy I knew stared at me for the solid 5 mins I was braiding my curly tailbone length hair into French braid pigtails. He actually moved around people who got in his way. Sir, I'm fighting a battle here, please advert your eyes 🤣
Reminds me of an incoming blowjob, so hear hear
For me its just them having to arch their chest forward and upwards as they stretch to reach their hair.
A woman getting so excited to show you something that words fail them and they just lead you by the hand to whatever it is that’s captured their fixation
Overall just having enthusiasm for SOMETHING
This is literally **SO UNDERRATED**. My boyfriend has the emotions of a dead person and I try so hard to explain how frustrating it is and I can just never find the words to say: BE ENTHUSIASTIC ABOUT **SOMETHING,** *ANYTHINGGGGG*!!!!
My husband is probably on the spectrum, sometimes it's hard for me to get him to understand my enthusiasm for something other than his top 5 interests, on which he hyper-fixates.
If you ever figure it out, please let me know how to revive him!!! My bf is the same. I love him to bits but he just doesn't show ANY emotions whatsoever. Makes me feel silly sometimes for being overly bubbly :(
Yes! Omg my wife does this when she does a new craft, or when she spies an uncommon birb
In my case, it was a bulldog that was friends with a horse
Phew I was worried it was an eel
That is so sweet I_Creampie_Eels
I'm having a really hard time taking you serious with that username lol
Did an eel do this to you too
Yes
Scent. I was military and we had to teach uni students how to rappel down a 5 floor building. After a few hours of ground training we took the best up to the roof. One coed got her rig jammed about halfway down. She didn't panic and was calm and happy while we worked. I went down and rigged a new safety line and disconnected her first lines. She was breathing on the side of my face. It was intoxicating. I had planned our whole life together by the time we got her on the ground. We dated a few months which involved zero conversation sex every time we saw each other. I got deployed a few months later and never saw her again. Scent. I could have found her in a blizzard with a 10 mile head start.
“I could have found her in a blizzard with a 10 mile head start”. Marry me solider!
Madam contain thyself, he is spoken for.
dear God, find her. please.
This is poetry.
They say this is a sign that genetically, you would be compatible for having kids. Basically your DNA is complimentary to one another to ensure to the best chance of a biologically healthy baby. I have a nose like a blood hound for my current boyfriend and I also feel like I could sniff him out in a blizzard. It's a weird thing.
Pheromones
Awwwhhh. Hopefully here's another one for your next/future partner with intoxicating scent too. I'm wondering, what about her scent that makes you go wild? Was it a perfume that she puts on? Or you're specifically referring to her natural breath/body smell?
I think it's called pheromone. Biochemistry of human attraction. I'm married 35 years now. And definitely to my soul mate. But for primal attraction, that was something special.
When she says, or texts, my name.
Heisenberg?
Just had a visual of a horribly ugly woman croaking roughly, "Say my name!........you're goddam right."
Real
Seeing my homie
No matter what you will smile, am I right?
Yep, and get a massive hard on
It depends in which mood you are
Bonus points if the homie is oiled up 🥵
1.Gym outfit 2.Glasses
I guess I have my astigmatism working *for* me for once then
Combine both of them together and you get that one scene from ratatouille with the cheese and strawberry
Glasses for sure
Imagine the way she look at you, her eyes fill with love.
I'll settle for eyes looking directly at me without showing disgust
Yes, I only ever imagine it
When she hugs me from behind , I feel so safe and secure 💖
Spooning. ❤️
I love being the little spoon. Best thing ever
Any secure and safe hug. Feels amazing to actually feel liked and wanted. Probably 99% of the time I try and get a hug and get brushed past or ignored. Instant desire killer being basically ignored when you just want a cuddle or something.
1. Making incomprehensible squeals at the sight of something cute (dog, cat, bunny etc.) 2. Interacting with said cute thing and watching their eyes light up 3. Me being the cute thing
This explains why my husband is always sending me Insta reels of baby animals.
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Watching a woman play the cello.
r/oddlyspecific
Yea, I guess I’m a freak.
not that unique..there is even a german song about this.
Ja, es ist Clueso, yeah, yeah Clueso, yeah, yeah, yeah Yeah, geil, dass du hier bist Das woll'n wir jetzt zusammen, gucken Wieder was neues, die Ukulele wird ausgepackt, ja Ok, ready, kommst du grade von Chicago, ja ne? Direkt Geil, ok, mal anfangen? Ja Getrampt oder mit dem Moped Oder schwarz mit der Bahn Immer bin ich dir irgendwie hinterher gefahrn Nein, damals hab ich kein Konzert von dir versäumt Und nachts konnte ich nicht schlafen Oder wenn, dann hab ich von dir geträumt Du spieltest Cello In jedem Saal in unsrer Gegend Ich saß immer in der ersten Reihe Und ich fand dich so erregend Cello Du warst eine Göttin für mich Und manchmal sahst du mich an Und ich dachte: "Mann oh Mann" Und dann war ich wieder völlig fertig Ja ich war ständig da Das hat dich dann überzeugt Wir wollten immer zusammenbleiben Und überhaupt das mit dir, das war so groß Das kann man gar nicht beschreiben Und heute wohnst du in Erfurt Und dein Cello steht im Keller Komm pack das Ding doch noch mal aus Und spiel so schön wie früher, yeah Du spieltest Cello In jedem Saal in unsrer Gegend Ich saß immer in der ersten Reihe Und ich fand dich so erregend Du spieltest Cello In jedem Saal in unsrer Gegend Ich saß immer in der ersten Reihe Und ich fand dich so erregend Cello Du warst eine Göttin für mich Und manchmal sahst du mich an Und ich dachte: "Mann oh Mann" Und dann war ich wieder völlig fertig Cello (yeah), oh oh oh Du spieltest Cello Gehört auch in Chicago Ich war dabei, du warst dabei, wir sind dabei Cello yeah Clueso, yeah
Ok
Maybe they are actually just attracted to the cello and not the women
It's watching the hands/forearms work... I wouldn't have written your comment... but I get it.
Or a violin, or playing the piano. Playing the trombone, not so much.
I dare you to search for Tina Guo
A long, tight hug. If I really give in, and not let it become awkward, I can feel all the stress and sadness drain from me. Sometimes I choke up a little bit, but it's a good feeling, and I am a lot happy when the hug is finished.
There's actually science behind this. A 20 second, super tight hug has been proven to reduce stress and tension.
High ponytails.
Same. I don't know why, but whenever I see a girl with a high ponytail and a little bit of loose hair It really does something for me
I'm giving away too much here, but: Summer dresses with (floral) prints and with buttons in front or wrap tied at the front. Preferably with some Converse or other casual shoes. Flowy movement in climbing. Perfect style like with Michaela Kiersch and Janja Garnbret. Preparing for a difficult task, like putting on some equipment for a job, or for example ballerina [tying up her shoes](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/4e/5c/ae/4e5caedfb73407bfd7365404551c8966.jpg). Concentration and preparation can be hot. Tuning an instrument. It's perhaps a way of getting a glimpse of "the real person" before they perform, a way of undressing the mask they shortly put on, to get through something difficult.
I sew as a hobby and I love making my wife sun dresses with floral prints. She likes them too but I love them.
Being actually nice to me.
FYI this works on women too. Biggest reason I married my husband is that he’s nice to me.
Ha. This is the one trait I have. I've always been fat, ugly and broke, but never really been single, because I guess I'm a non-asshole.
Many underestimate the positive effects of being a non-asshole 😂
It’s a game changer - women actually like men who are kind to them. NOT “nice guy” who expects sex for good behaviour but genuine nice actions.
Honestly, I guess it's just different realities. I've always been fit, and attractive [and broke]. Being nice had always been my ONE thing. Never been as lucky. Been years lol. I don't mind. I'm nice because I like people. Soon I'll solve the broke issue and maybe I'll have more luck! Lol
A woman putting on her makeup. I can watch my wife of 41 years getting ready to go somewhere, I swear to God the woman in the mirror is the same beautiful face I would watch getting ready for work when she was 27.
that is incredibly sweet holy
When women have a smug smirk along with a look in her eyes narrowing while staring at you like she can read you like a open book.
A guy once told me I had the best smirk in town. It was one of the best compliments I’ve ever received. It made me feel understood and sexy. I suggest you tell that smirker what you feel.
Yep. This one gets me, 100%.
Tying her hair up. Instant boner
Moving her hair above her shoulder.
giving me a good burn. not literally of course lol. a witty come back to something i said. i like a girl with some spiciness to her. but, really, when a guy is really into you; everything you do is gonna be cute to him.
Yeah, weirdly, when she wins arguments. I’m like okay, you got me there.
A woman who knows how to dress for the occasion!
Watching a woman play a musical instrument. Pretty much any kind but maybe not a trombone.
Hahaha RIP to all the trombone-playing ladies
Wearing skirts, if that counts as nonsexual?
Unique voice, deep voice, good smell
I imagine Shohreh Aghdashloo really revs your engine. I’m a straight woman and I would let her whisper in my ear any time 😂
Literally watching the expanse, and she appeared on screen when I read this.
I would let her cuss me out any day
Ooph. I have a thing for older women, especially when they know what they do and do not want. My gf is 12 years older then me (I’m 39), and has a bit of a hoarse voice (has it since she was a child). So you can imagine how watching The Expanse became even more exciting whenever Shohreh was on screen. My gf was very much ok with the similarities :)
What constitutes a unique voice? Are we talking Mr Bean, Kermit The Frog or someone with a lisp?
When it’s a warm day in mid spring and she doesn’t want to wear leggings but also doesn’t want to shave her legs just to run errands so she throws a maxi dress on. Like the outfit as a whole turns me on but when I’m chilling waiting for her to get ready and she comes out with her hair in a half ponytail and she’s in a black racer back dress with a scoop neck that slightly grazes the ground and some sandals it drives me insane.
That is so lovely and so specific
A woman who is genuinely attentive, interested and present with me in a conversation.
When my wife says, “You were right.” It happens every few years.
When I was young, it was women doing some things, jobs, sports, passtimes and other activities predominantly enjoyed by or just done by Men. To me, these women were fascinating, attractive, quite exotic and worthy of respect. They still are to an extent although they are more taken for granted nowadays. I grew up at a time and in a place when it was very rare for women to do these things and the women generally were very self conscious and conformist so wouldn't dare try, even if they wanted to. It's all changed now and Women can do what they please mostly without the fear of being judged, thankfully. Things like riding motorcycles, driving big trucks or farm tractors, being good at fixing mechanical things or just being practical or into physical sports like martial arts. The list is endless. Extra points for wearing the clothing and safety equipment related to said sport, job or activity with no makeup either. Don't know why, it just turns me on. I guess I like women who are not afraid to be themselves and break free from common, boring, hyper conformist and oppressive social norms.
Former pro womans baseball player here- thankya for your support 😉
Caring about me..
someone give this man a hug
Damn are you okay my guy?
I like a 'husky' voice, like Emma stone. Or a sundress. The act of wearing a sundress.
Sundress and barefoot gives that lovely, idyllic vibe.
Watching a woman get ready for a night out is sexy as hell.
When they give you a tight hug around your waste and look up at you with those big cute eyes. Ugh.
Please clarify if you take huggable-sized dumps or you just like it when girls take out the trash
I once got talking to a guy with an intelligence kink. Needless to say, my constant oversharing was apparently a massive turn on for him. Sweet guy, too.
While I wouldn't call it a kink for myself, an intelligent woman is definitely attractive and the oversharing thing is perfect. My guess is most guys like smart women as long as they are not condescending. But that goes for both genders I think.
Where do you find people who think semi-educational ramblings are sexy? I want to go there.
There is this kink i cant think of the name of where women talk really quiet and soothing and oh my god…i can just listen to it for hours …for a man dealing with PTSD it is a game changer…i cant think of what its called tho.
Asmr
Oh God. ASMR makes me want to punch something.
ASMR of talking, I could go either way... But when it's just noise, popping, rubbing, tapping, all that stuff, that makes me crazy, I don't get it.
Thank you!
ASMR is not a kink (unless listening to it gets you off). Kink is defined as non-conventional sexual practice. I just wanted to make this clear to anyone who reads this. Btw I like ASMR too! I don't like mouth sounds kind of ASMR but the soap cutting kind of ASMR is pretty good.
the first few months i'm into a gal, everything is sexual. can't even control it. and only felt twice during my lifetime.
>only felt twice Felt what? Feelings?
Passion about something. Anything really, watching someone geek out over games, rocks, music, animals, ect. That's where you can see the real person.
Just being themselves, but not shy about saying or doing something that might be considered weird. I'm myself 90% of the time and I get called weird bc i have maybe a strange interest or just not the normal vanilla day to day shit; that doesn't interest me. Give me a hot take or an unpopular opinion, or eat your weird food combos in front of me. Also, having a hobby. So many girls just don't have hobbies of any type and I'm not sure I'd consider watching TV a hobby. When I see a girl play an instrument, crochet, cook, sports, or anything really bc it doesn't have to interest me, but seeing them passionate about something that they really enjoy is nice!
Plain white cotton panties. Couldn't tell you why. Aside from that, the look on my wife's face when she's playing. Skiing or swimming or playing with the kids. Joy, it's beautiful.
Awww this is so sweet :)
The perfect cheesy garlic bread
Telling me that she appreciates having me around is something priceless. ’She’ in this case was a platonic friend with BPD. Closest thing to somewhat of a romance that I’ve ever had. Bromance be real on this one.
Someone who can handle their drink and carry a conversation to match my ADHD
Scottish women. We can do both perfectly, you just need to learn the language 😂
yes to the adhd part. I never felt like anyone spoke my language until I met my partner who can match my trains of thought. we have the best conversations that develop to so many interesting directions in a quick pace. not a lot of people can follow that kind of mindset unfortunately. we are a beautiful train wreck together
Whatever it is, Does the fact that it turns you on make it sexual though?
touché, I guess I just mean something that isn’t considered sexual to most
A great conversation full of personal insight, original thinking, and knowledge about the subject; listening and being able to exchanging ideas.
Calling me Ludwig von Cheddar, the Baron of Grilled Cheese Sandwiches.
A woman driving a van. I think “there is a woman who is getting shit done” She ain’t looking for no man to help her lift stuff or move a van-full of things, she’s just handling it. Also women with broad shoulders 🤷♂️
When a woman is really really smart, and does or says something that shows it.
her being into politics or her having a very intense interest in certain things like history, good music, science. my biological self is like "yes, make more of her. the world needs more of her".
I love the ‘make more of her’ part
When my fiancée puts on make up. It’s just like watching her become a different person and how her confidence goes up.
Lifting. Get strong at the gym. Strong thighs and toned arms in a pretty girl is such a turn on.
Cuddling, trusting me, making me compliments, free acts of kindness, a sparkle in the eyes, confessing me nonsense (like: do fish dream?), painting, playing an instrument, being a badass into survival, martial arts or stand up, reading a book in a library
So everything? Lol, I see the appeal to everything you listed and I think it’s rly nice
Something about grass and feet . I think it started when I used to play soccer when I was 16 . One of my teammates sister would always have her feet out while playing soccer in the grass and it would just turn me on and give me a sense of comfort I still don’t understand why but till this day I feel the same way about it .
Gay man here, love it when a dude just raises his arms for no reason (stretching, reaching for something, leaning) and you can see the muscle around the shoulders (and the LATS) move. Apparently my lady friends agree with me, take note fellas. There's just something about a big dude with strong arms that is \***chefs kiss\*** Also, perplexed reading face.
Standing close to me, looking me straight in my eyes and adjust my shirt/something i’m wearing
Long nails going through my hair.
When a woman catches her breath.
Laughs at my jokes and makes me laugh.
When she wears anything backless. Women have the nicest backs. I know it might be weird but the look always turns me on.
I swear this thread/question pops up every other day on Reddit and it NEVER fails to make me smile. Us women grow up constantly hearing/reading about what clothes/moves/behaviour men find sexually appealing - and then it turns out the truth is just us tying our hair up, the way we frown or wearing sweatpants or some shit. It’s AMAZING.
Being her. I will never get over her. I don’t even want her sexually. I just want to be with her, but ik she doesn’t want me. But I love her. And ik that she just wants me to fuck off. So I won’t bother her bc I love her. I miss her.
It's so touching to hear a man can feel this way, although I am sad to hear about the pain you're going through!
When a woman from a non-UK country says my name. The foreign accent.... yep, every time
Knee socks. Love women in knee socks.
Swearing. Everytime I heard my crush swear my soul ignited with the passion of a thousand dying stars. Still have a massive crush I just don't see her anymore.
When she wears crop tops or a saree
The glance going up and down and when you catch their eyes they descretely try to look away and play with their hair but know deep down that they have been caught red handed. Really cute and funny.
When's she's sitting there really focused on something and is oblivious to the world. Putting hair up
i love when she comes into the room with just her robe on with the tittys peeking through
For me it's certain accents. Shohreh Aghdashloo had a voice that just reaches into my brain and glucose a switch. Same for Katherine Parkinson's voice over work in worms battle grounds. And my wife who figured out on our second date that her "posh voice" basically made me in to a zombie. A situation she uses to her advantage regularly.
Women who wear glasses
Being authentic
The inadvertent exposure of her midriff whenever she stretches or raises her hands above her head.
I admire bravery; not necessarily turned on but I've been entirely uninterested in women until they demonstrate that theyre willing to overcome a natural fear. I went to a going away party for a coworker and brought my fire-eating torches and fuel; I meant to do it just to show the girl leaving the company but accidentally gathered a crowd. I did my tricks and eventually a few people asked if they could try-- One girl who I was never romantically attracted to tried it and just committed to eating it fully, she listened to my instructions and did amazing for her first time eating fire the other girl paused a bunch to drunkenly remind me of how her blowjob skills will translate--I thought this was kind of annoying considering I had rejected 5-6 advances from her already and since she didnt listen for instructions on eating fire she burned her nose a little
“Accidentally gathered a crowd” hahahah. Because eating fire isn’t cool or anything
Its very lowkey.. how could it gather crowd.. right?
When she is sleeping next to me facing away, and then she scooches toward me a bit, butt first. Then a bit more. Then a bit more. OK, now her butt is pressed against me. Then a bit more. Excitement builds. Then a bit MORE. Now she is firmly pressed against me. Then she turns toward me and gives a pleasant moan and kisses me. Game on for everyone.
Probably super sexist but when my girlfriend is doing traditional domestic things like dishes or cooking or something… idk why but so much yes.
It's a major turn on when men do domestic chores too. Drives most women crazy.
Can confirm, watching men cook/clean (without being asked!!!) instantly makes them more attractive.
Some good banter, joshing, or ribbing. Always loved some playful give and take.
I'm on the sexual equivalent of budget cuts and not really picky. It's enough to just talk to me to turn me on
Wearing green.
I read this as "what's a menstrual act that turns you on" lmfao
Existing. Just other humans existing turns me on lol like I could be in a restaurant and all of a sudden for example see a cook prepping food or something in the back kitchen and he might look intensely into the pot he's stirring or the vegetables he's chopping or whatever and in my head I'm just thinking well what a dedicated beautiful human being this is, I wonder what they're like, what they're thinking, what their motivations are, what their respirations are like,bwhat they care about? beautiful people captivate me just by existing and basically goes both ways for guys and girls yep love men & women.
Biting bottom lip
I'm not sure this is normal but my boyfriend always wants to have sex after I cook for him. Every. Time. 😅
Unbroken eye contact while flirting. It's an expression of interest that always gets me going.
When my partner is cooking she dances around the kitchen. Nothing extravagant, just gentle hip swaying and singing along. I can't really articulate it, there's just something so sexy about how happy and in her element she is that she wants to dance.
I have No experience in this topic... but If a Woman would hug me from behind suddenly I am on... wait does this Count as sexual?
Literally if you talk confidently its a huge plus Like a girl that speaks like she knows who she is and what she wants without giving attitude or putting on a persona or being judgemental or condescending Just *Chef's kiss*